I can relate. Me and my wife have been married over 16 and a half years and have had our ups and downs with four daughters(yes, I said daughters) we are struggling, but we are doing it together. Marriage isn't given to you, it is something you definitely work at with your spouse. I am by far the best husband in the world to live with, but I try to be more loving and understanding to my spouse and my children even though sometimes their complaints are just ridiculous.

It boils down to what you believe in! When you said for better or worse, do you believe that? We have been married for 20 years with 3 children. The years now only add joy and after 20 years, I know when to press or when to start asking for forgivness. I sure most don't want to hear this part but it's a fact. We both answer to a higher power and I am not about to break a promise to him, my wife or my kids.

may god still bless you two. just like my mom and dad 50 years +... they still in love...

that must have been a good year to get married. We were both 20 & now we'r 77. FYI we went together 28 days befor we were married. :-)

Yes. I totally agree !

hey that is awesom. so long and still in love.
well i think any marriage or any relationship cannot go on without ups + downs. even if u say u love someone, its really hard to explain what love is. i think love is something u cannot explain with words. you just know it. my suggestion is just be faithful and understanding to ur partner. me and my wife married when we were very young. i was 21 and my wife was 19. we are still very happy together. we have our ups and downs but we manage to figure out a way to overcome those obstacles. its very hard, but if you trust ur partners and have faith in the relationship, u will last. ( my opinion )

The majority of couples marrying today make a mockery of the wedding vows and the church they marry in.

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Hello, Sharon. I am delighted to hear your story. My (ex) husband and I were divorced after 12 years of marriage. Ten years have gone by, and there isn't a minute that we didn't miss each other and love each other. Time, and enduring love have taught us that none of the things that we thought we important enough to split up over are important enough to live apart any more. We will re-marry early next year, only this time, there's no divorce in our future. Age and love have taught us a lot, and we look forward to growing old(er) together. I'm already in my mid fifties, and I was his first and only wife.
Imagine the look on the Clerk of Court's face when we show the papers proving that we really are divorced, from each other. :-)

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I whole heartedly agree with you. Marriage is the toughest job you ever take on. We were both 23 when we married; had known each other since the first grade. Had a 10 year separation when he left to go to school in another town. Met again when he was out of the service and working. Married at 23 and started a family. Eventually 5 children completed our group. Our commitment was forever from day ONE. It wasn't easy but we promised never to go to bed angry at one another and at times that was almost impossible. We stuck to it and here we are 58 years later thanking God for each other , the children and grandchildren and the life we've had together.

CONGRATS TO YOU & YOURS!!!! You are so right about people and relationships today, it's the mind set that"it's broke just throw it away, I can always find a new one". It's easier to walk out then to be strong and fight for the love you had or have. My grandparents were married 58 years when my granddad found out he had cancer, for their 59th anniversary he had everyone gather for dinner and cake at a local restaurant to honor their 59th since he knew he would not make it for their 60th. It was soooo GREAT, to see the look in their eyes that day and granddad holding grams hand. If only people now a days would value each other, love, trust and faith more maybe we would have more marriges lasting and less CHILDREN suffering through these messy divorces.

I totally agree with you terry. I got married at 19, went to the army for a little while. Had no skills, came back a cocky and angry guy who seen my wife and mother in law in a different light. Lived with the inlaws for 4 mos, fought just about every day. Couldnt hold a job until I worked for the factory for 13 years. Spent time in jail for domestic violence which really woke me up about my temper. For some reason, me and my bride are still together throughout all the ups and downs. We are still having monetary issues among other things but we are working at it, still after 16 and a half years. I commend the wife on staying with me that long.

Terry, you are right. My husband and I are in our second marriages and it's great!! I also married young 20 thinking it would last forever! I left everything behind with alot of grief from family members. My new husband is great and we do everything. The important thing is he was my best friend first.

I love what you said about know who you are marrying....I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years and I have never pushed him to proposed but I'm still affraid to get married ....not because he's bad on the contrary he is an amazing human being.. and I love him to pieces but my fear is that as soon as we get marry our lives will turn up side down... seeing so many other marriages fail I'm scare of being another statistic...but my love for him is so big that if he proposes I will say I do....

wow! Sorry for your loss Bud.....but $450,000.00 dollars is nothing.......consider $2 to $3 million and your talking serious money hurt.....

Thanks!! I really enjoyed reading your post and it confirmed to me so much more that I am ready to marry my fiance and vice versa. We feel like we can never get enough of eachother and its almost sickening but true. The only problem we are facing is school. It seperates us from eachother both because of the distance and because of the stress and work it involves so we have put the wedding off for another year and a half which is really hard on both of us....(we're in our mid 20's by the way and have been together for almost 5 years!)
I am sorry to hear you went through all that pain and suffering in your first marriage but I am happy you are out of that and into a whole new life. Good luck and thanks for sharing your story!! May everyone find their soulmate and never have to deal with a divorce.

Gabbi I really hope you see this: Love has no fear. Perhaps you haven't found the right one yet.

My husband and I married at 19. (we are 2 days apart). We have been married a year now and although many think of us as "newlyweds" we have been through a lot this year. He is a US Marine currrently serving his second tour in Iraq (We have been together since before he went to bootcamp) and I believe everyday we become stronger together. I know for a fact that 30 years from now we will still be in love with each other. Enjoying every minute we have, because we know what its like to not have each other everyday. We know how precious love and marriage are. You have to communicate in a relationship. You have to meet each other needs, and not just your own. And I know we have what it takes, its sad so many people rush into marriage and divorce 5 years later. I enjoyed reading some of your comments. Especialy those who have therir true love now, no matter if its marriage 1 or marriage 3.