Welcome to my debt filled world!
WHY IS SAVING MONEY SO HARD! Sometimes I sit and wonder where all the money went. You want to know what's worse? Sometimes I cannot answer myself!
"Oh you have to save money," they say. "Invest for the future," they tell me. How do you do that when you have all the hassles and worries of today? Have you ever called in to work because you were low on gas and you didn't get paid for two days? Ok, so I've only done it once, but still!
Having kids and saving money doesn't work. Well, I'm sure it does because a lot of other people in the world do it, but I am yet to succeed. The sum of our savings sits on our dining room table in an old plastic pretzel jar. $192.34 – all change. It's a start, but no where near where we need or want to be. Even though we could use that money to pay some bills, me and the wife have decided not to use it. We are going to wait until that jar is full and then go on a vacation. We figure about $1000 will fit in that thing. Actually it's a great thing. Everyday we put any change left in our pockets into the jar. Our kids will find money on the floor or on the sidewalk and run in and put it away. They get so excited! I figure that it will teach them to save, and it will give us all a little getaway. God knows we need it.
To be honest, I think I am the root of our problem. I'll spend and spend and spend until I can't spend any more. I seriously think I need some help on controlling that. I've become better over the past months. I don't want to have to explain to anyone why we are selling our house and moving into an apartment...call me crazy like that. At the same time, I'm not driving us into debt hell, just spending more than I should be...so back off a little ok?
I'm 29 years old. I have been married to my wonderful wife for the past 7 years. I have two incredible boys who are the joy of our life. I work for a local school district as an IT Technician. It's a great job and I love everyday of it.
I have an addictive personality. Not a "clinical" one, but it's obvious to those who know me that I have one. I want to do everything. This one time, I watched the movie "Barber Shop," and I wanted to become a barber...no lie. I pick up a hobby and I have to follow it. Writing is one...photography is another.
I am addicted to "things." Gadgets, technology, everything. If it's new and shiny, I want it. I get it about 70% of the time. Horrible ain't it? Well, at least from a financial point of view.
I realize my downfalls. But I also realize my strengths.
I am a great "planner." I have a knack for planning every little detail of something I put my mind to. I think that will help me in this quest for financial freedom.
I am also very patient, and stress doesn't get to me very easy. Although the stress has hit me when it comes to finances.
I am ready to change my life. To change my families life. I welcome you on this journey with me. Hopefully we can learn from each other.
"Oh you have to save money," they say. "Invest for the future," they tell me. How do you do that when you have all the hassles and worries of today? Have you ever called in to work because you were low on gas and you didn't get paid for two days? Ok, so I've only done it once, but still!
Having kids and saving money doesn't work. Well, I'm sure it does because a lot of other people in the world do it, but I am yet to succeed. The sum of our savings sits on our dining room table in an old plastic pretzel jar. $192.34 – all change. It's a start, but no where near where we need or want to be. Even though we could use that money to pay some bills, me and the wife have decided not to use it. We are going to wait until that jar is full and then go on a vacation. We figure about $1000 will fit in that thing. Actually it's a great thing. Everyday we put any change left in our pockets into the jar. Our kids will find money on the floor or on the sidewalk and run in and put it away. They get so excited! I figure that it will teach them to save, and it will give us all a little getaway. God knows we need it.
To be honest, I think I am the root of our problem. I'll spend and spend and spend until I can't spend any more. I seriously think I need some help on controlling that. I've become better over the past months. I don't want to have to explain to anyone why we are selling our house and moving into an apartment...call me crazy like that. At the same time, I'm not driving us into debt hell, just spending more than I should be...so back off a little ok?
I'm 29 years old. I have been married to my wonderful wife for the past 7 years. I have two incredible boys who are the joy of our life. I work for a local school district as an IT Technician. It's a great job and I love everyday of it.
I have an addictive personality. Not a "clinical" one, but it's obvious to those who know me that I have one. I want to do everything. This one time, I watched the movie "Barber Shop," and I wanted to become a barber...no lie. I pick up a hobby and I have to follow it. Writing is one...photography is another.
I am addicted to "things." Gadgets, technology, everything. If it's new and shiny, I want it. I get it about 70% of the time. Horrible ain't it? Well, at least from a financial point of view.
I realize my downfalls. But I also realize my strengths.
I am a great "planner." I have a knack for planning every little detail of something I put my mind to. I think that will help me in this quest for financial freedom.
I am also very patient, and stress doesn't get to me very easy. Although the stress has hit me when it comes to finances.
I am ready to change my life. To change my families life. I welcome you on this journey with me. Hopefully we can learn from each other.










Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
2-08-2008 @ 3:40AM
Gary E. Sattler said...
You are taking a good first step in changing your situation. You have a second job now.
Next you must learn how to stop yourself from buying things just because you want them.
It takes practice and control. You'll get there.
Thanks for sharing your world with us!
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2-08-2008 @ 5:46AM
audiodrumm said...
Very compelling post. If you haven't read Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey, then I highly recommend it. It's an easy-to-read straightforward approach to money management. While I haven't been in debt myself, I certainly learned a lot from the book.
Also, you say you collect a lot of new gadgets and gizmos. I'd suggest that if you want to make some extra cash, try ebay-ing the things you don't use anymore. This is a great way to liquidate some of your unused assets and get you that much closer to a vacation!
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2-08-2008 @ 8:34AM
Will B. said...
Just FYI, when your kids get to be teenagers, they will likely rob that jar for an extra coke at school, or whatever. I know...there were five of us kids and while we were all good kids, we did it anyway.
Just FYI.
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2-08-2008 @ 9:55AM
Chris said...
Need or want? That's how I think when I go into a store or see something online. It's been working pretty good so far and saved me some money!
I absolutely love the eBay idea by audiodrumm...we do the same thing! You don't feel so guilty afterwards for buying it in the first place.
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2-08-2008 @ 10:02AM
Erwos said...
Yeah, liquidating your old gadgets on eBay to fund the new ones is a must. That, and giving yourself a two month "cooling down" period before buying something you see for the first time.
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2-08-2008 @ 1:57PM
Carla said...
Ask yourself, “Where has all my gadgetry gotten me?” The future is full of bigger picture items that you will wish to afford. For example: help your kids get into college, retirement and (heaven forbid) an emergency that can really put you in a rut. It sounds like you already know the drill that people will tell you about saving. “You should save 10% of your income!” and “Everyone should have at least two months salary put away for emergencies!” That is almost impossible for most of us.
Approach savings by taking baby steps. Commit yourself to putting $10 or $20 in a savings account every payday. Have money deducted out of your paycheck and directly deposited into a savings account. That money will be out of sight and out of mind. Chances are you won’t spend it on any impulse buys. The money will be there when you really need it.
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2-11-2008 @ 1:45PM
Vips said...
Write down everything (and I mean everything) you buy on a daily basis. It will reveal some unique trends.
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3-28-2008 @ 8:53PM
Abelicio Padilla said...
Thank you everyone for all the tips. It's great to know that not only are people reading, they are also willing to share and give advice to help me along the way!
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